Last night I decided it was time to do something different. Prior to our last vacation, when things seemed to be getting better, I would stop by WAW's apartment for tea on my way home from work. So..last night I texted "tea?". Her response was "sorry, not home". We exchanged a couple of texts, but I managed to resist the urge to text again when she did not respond to my last one. I also managed to not say that I had heard "our song" earlier in the day and that it made me miss her.
I have really been missing her the last few days, but have done everything I can not to show that to my kids or tell her.
I haven't been around much on the db forums but managed to find a few minutes today, preparing for some travelling, a work trip I have scheduled for next week, busy, busy, busy, no rest for the wicked as they say ;-)
BTM, saw your post bro and I just shook my head, you just don't get it.
You have killed the attraction between the two of you, calling her/texting her and "changing things up" isn't going to recreate that attraction.
"Last night I decided it was time to do something different."
You seriously have yet to really try something different, you're still up to your same old schtick.
"so..last night I texted "tea?".
Pursuing, pursuing, pursuing.....
Don't you have a life after work, why do you need to stop by her place for .... tea?!
Things may have seemed to have been getting better prior to your vacation together but that was your point of view, not her point of view, in my opinion, she just went along for the ride, enjoyed the vacation time for what it was, vacation time, not necessarily time spent with you.
I get it bro, you're still head of heels in love with her.
And she knows it.
She doesn't feel that way about you.
And she can't feel that way about you until she FEELS that way about you if you get what I mean and that's only when she experiences that you've finally understood the way she feels. When you finally get how attraction works, when you stop pursuing and allow her to pursue what she's attracted to (be it you or someone else), when you finally let go and move on with your life and stop darkening her doorstep with your omniscient presence (always being there).
Leave her alone, move on with your life, you can be civil, friendly, cordial but you can stop contacting her and let her contact you. If that happens everyday or once a month, that's just how it's going to go.
She has to FEEL you let go. She has to FEEL you move on.
And she can't FEEL any of that when you are always there.
