Wii, I hear you on the firsts! But I agree with OT on this one. Just stay upbeat and tell the kids you'll see them soon, to have a great time and call you if they want to talk about anything. They're probably disappointed because they don't want your STBXW to go nuts on them with no one to intervene.
Hang in there...DD's b.day party (from STBXW) is tomorrow and I won't be there which sucks and makes me upset but it shall pass too and the following week will be good.
Chin up!
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Sorry about the party Romeo! These "firsts" certainly are hard. But, in my case, I had the option to come but chose not to and have no regrets in that regard. It is not appropriate for me to spend a week with my wife and family as though we are what we are not! A day outing or a special occassion I'm up for but no week long excursions. Yet, every summer we used to rent a cottage with friends and their kids and have a super time, this is the first year I won't be a part of it. Yes, this too shall pass but I'm not going to just shove the feelings away in order to be Super-Separated-Man , it hurts and if I need to cry I'm gonna...and then carry on. For too long I've tried to be too perfect and adjusted, it's OK to let things out once in a while and acknowledge the pain. It sucks but what is is!
Go Wii!!!!!!! You will see how much better the next year will be :-)
Bring it on! I think it was Woody Hayes who once said, "There's nothing that cleanses your soul like getting the hell kicked out of you" It's kind of like a day at the spa!
I just dropped the kids chargers over to their mom's place. I asked what time they were leaving tomorrow. They said 10:30 am or 11:00 am but weren't sure, so I asked them to call me before they left, hugged them and said "you guys are gonna have a great time!" They certainly seemed more adapted to the idea the Dad wasn't coming over to see them off. It will certainly be different for them. They've never gone without Mom and Dad, now it's just Mom. I wonder what it will be like for her parenting for an entire week 24-7 alone. No matter what we always parented well together, we were a unit but hey, this is what she wanted and now she can live it. Sadly, the rest of us have to live it too. Btw, I'm thinking of going to St.Catharines (that's near Niagara Falls). There's a book outlet I want to go to and there's a museum which has an exhibit detailing the Underground Railroad from the 1800's. There's also a Lacrosse Museum in the same building. Yup, just call me Mr. Adventure!
Excellent! I'm jealous, the Canadian side of Niagara is so much prettier than the US side.
BTW, here is a $99 THREE night ADVENTURE package for you, including accommodations, tickets, cooking facilities, friendly faces (that's $99 for THREE nights, not per night): http://www.hihostels.ca/GreatLakes/524/hi-niagara_falls_adventure_package.hostel. You can even pay more for a cozy private room, but still benefit from the social atmosphere.
Well, Mr. Adventure, the world awaits and I am sure there are more interesting things you can do.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Well, the kids and their mom have left for the cottage. I called them just before they left and we said our goodbyes. I'm OK, no tears...yet. They should be meeting our friends at McDonald's soon for lunch, that's where we always meet up, and then continue on the three hour journey. Wife didn't speak to me and I didn't ask to speak to her, she just asked D to give me the address and phone numbers to where they'll be staying. So, I've got the rest of the day to do whatever.
