I will Survive.

[Shelby]

Thanks CW, interesting, I have some thinking to do.

My concern right now is Husband keeps telling me that the way he has been doing things so far, is going to be the better deal for me then what the courts are going to give me, if I go for support. The support date is scheduled for October 12.

So far he has been paying ALL the bills, electric, morgage, phones, everything. I only have approx. $150. in the bank at any time, whenever I buy gas for the car or food for the Girls and myself then he will transfer that exact amount back into the account. He gives no extra spending money, clothes, entertainment ect.

I guess he is getting me nervous now about wether I should go forward with the legal support. Am I making sense ?

My concern is how long would he be willing to be so generous ? won't he tire soon of having to still take care of us, and get tired of me having to report to him whenever I spend money on me and the Girls.

He was here the other day looking for paperwork, saying he needs it now, now that I sued him for support, HELLO...didn't you sue me first for divorce.

I am really nervous now about this support hearing, He wanted this divorce, not me. I have worked part time for the past 5 years, before that I was a stay at home mom, because that is what we both agreed. I make barely anything compared to him, now he is telling me that now I have to get a full time job, yes, deep down I do know this, but at the same time, I do not like being told this from him or maybe it is the way he says it. he said Me and the Girls way of life would not change, But That is already changing. He said it is in my best interest to be nice to him. and that after support is established through the courts, any extra money he decides to give me would be out of the kindness of his heart.
Some times when he is talking to me he is such a stranger, not some one I loved and was/is married too for 16 years.

Okay I can take some 2x4's, I think I need them.
Should I go forward with the support date, or should I ask that a legal document be made up where we keep things going as they have been for the past month ?