Made up my mind that I'm not going to talk to anyone that knows her and I anymore. Told our mutual friend that it's not right and don't want to know when W and her hang out or any details of anything. I'll just come here and vent if needed.
I made the mistake of reaching out to too many friends and family. I know that sounds odd, but my W is now hyper aware of who knows what's going on. We took our Ds to the children's zoo, and I saw a friend we had both known for 13 years. I was speaking to her while W was watching the girls, and she didn't notice our friend. Then when she did, the first thing she asked me was "What did you say to her?" I replied "I said Hi..."
It's hard when you rely on your network of friends for support. My W doesn't, she's keeping most of this to herself and bottled up. Her choice.
What I found funny, was other than our opening pleasantries, it was the first question out of her mouth. If she hadn't been drinking, I don't think she would have said or asked anything. Not going to mind read on this one, but I'm pretty sure I made the right move by taking our friend out of the equation.
I'm not trying to be mean at all, but I have to make it that if she wants to talk to me or hear about me, she's going to have to do it. No grapevine or word of mouth medium. I think this protects me as well, less I hear/see the easier it is to focus on me and also helps me to curb over analyzing/mind reading crap.(which btw is THE hardest thing for me to control)
