You live your life while you wait so you Don't Miss anything... no regrets
i figure .. while i'm waiting, i might as well do something with my life and do some self-improvement.
one thing i really need help on is my communication. you touched on this on someone else's thread about creating a safe environment for communication. i am likely .. ok, i am guilty of not creating a safe environment for my h to communicate with me. and sometimes i feel like this may have pushed him away from me.
i have this way of 'digging' without having to use words. i often know when my h hasn't thought of something thoroughly - which is quite often. so when he says he wants to do this or he thinks things should be done a certain way, i'll let him be his man in all his glory. i'll nod and say "ok" but along with that, i have a look that says "there is something you didn't consider and may ruin your plan. i know what it is and i'm not telling you. you're figuring it out yourself because i can't protect you forever." he hated this because i wasn't giving him the answer. i was making him learn from his mistakes. i wasn't coddling him like his parents. so how can i create a safe environment for dialogue without giving that 'look'. with compassion?
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You can do Pausch while leaving a window open for him to reconsider later if he grows up
i think this is my third option. i can't control him. i only have control over what i do with me. many days i feel like it's hopeless. but there's a boy in there who really wants to stand up to his parents. i've seen it.
is this one of the brick walls that show me how badly i want something (ie. my m)? wait long enough and people will show you their good side. just be patient.
