I did ask him but he still seemed to think it's not necessary. I assume you mean just ask him to go??? Or, if you mean ask him why he doesn't want to, he's already said: not necessary - not enough to get done - claims D says it's ok if he doesn't go - missing work, etc...
H is so disconnected and detached, I don't think it's because he can't say goodbye. In his mind, it's just not that big a deal. He thinks she'll be home in a week or two anyway and there will be plenty of opportunities for him to see her place, etc...
Remember - H is the one who doesn't even talk with his family these days much. He has no connectedness "gene"... I wish it were that it's harder on him than I think but I honestly do not believe that's it. At least that would show he has some emotion!
