I'm not saying there's no hope. I am saying its a lot of work. This isn't an overnight fix.

Even when his parents pass he won't suddenly become an adult... That' wont be enough... But it WILL eliminate him being further enabled.

It takes years to learn what the word "us" means.

Some kids get that when they are TEN... some go off to university and even marry with no idea yet...

When your H hears the words "us" he's clueless...

It takes work to repair that...


Last edited by Allen A; 08/13/10 02:17 PM.