FWIW, I think making a big deal out of this with a special goodbye, etc..., sets the kids up for separation anxiety (just like in nursery school). This is their normal, no big deal. I'd call when they are on their way, "Good morning, just wanted to say hi, have a blast!"
My oldest was hugging me yesterday and didn't want to let go. The youngest sounded disappointed that I said I wasn't coming over to say goodbye (I only live about three blocks away) but I think you and my friend are right. There's no need to set up an emotional scene before they leave. I told them already I wouldn't be coming over. I think I'll probably just call them...hang up, have my little cry and move on. They'll be calling me every night from the cottage anyway. Damn, I hate these "firsts"!
