I think it's more just a "guy thing" as opposed to a "character flaw." Just something guys tend to do more under stress, whereas women tend to seek out connectedness. Perhaps one reason we typically live longer, as reflected in this study!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012