New to the Forum - my story

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Ugh, where to begin???

Keeter, it is difficult to say the least. but you are pushing her further away from you and you don't realize it.

I picked up the kids car seats and their things this morning, as they were being dropped off by my W at school. I broke down and started the "talking" again, no kids were present.

Stop initiating R talk, it is the last thing she went to hear and she will feel uncomfortable every time she has to see you.

I will be honest in saying that yes, I do want to know if she is. At the same time I wouldn't mind knowing where she will be..in the case of an emergency. So I came out and just asked her. She did tell me where she was going, but at the same time..it was none of my business.

Again you being needy here, wanting to know her where abouts.
And she's right about......IT is none of your business. Controlling

I told her she will be missed and its not the same when we are not doing this together as a family. I am sorry for trying to carry on these conversations with her, that it is just really tough...I am trying.

She doesn't care that she will be missed, don't say things like this. And stop apologizing for everything and start validating her feelings.

Gets worse...then I texted her. Apologized again for my behaviour

Again, not attractive. Pushing her firther away. She's now thinking she can't wait to get away from you and the drama.

I told her that I married her because I love her, I had children with her because I love her. I wouldn't have married her or had children if I didn't know in my heart that I was prepared to do anything, no matter what happened, to make things work and make our marriage last forever. I told her that I married her because I love her, I had children with her because I love her. I wouldn't have married her or had children if I didn't know in my heart that I was prepared to do anything, no matter what happened, to make things work and make our marriage last forever. Being left alone to to do that...makes it rough. Because now its one of us trying...not two.
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Blah, blah, blah. That's what she heard here. Stop saying ILYs.
She was propbaly working on the M by herself before all this happened and you didn't know it. Now she is tiring of trying and you and all of us LBS wake up when W is out the door.


You did get this right...... IT IS GOING TO BE ROUGH!


I'm telling you all of this b/c I too already did it. And trust me, it doesn't work!

For you to have ANY chance you need to totally detach(in a loving way). Coach is excellent here helping people through thus.

Forget about all that about yesterday, you can't take it back.

YOU are your focus.