Okay, now I'm really confused. I woke up this morning to an email from his saying: Okay, we can stop the games now; at 8:30 last evening.
I responded What? I really don't know what he's talking about.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Your h is paranoid and he thinks that you are playing games w/the signing of the papers, etc. They tend to think that we are dragging our feet on such things and to them we are playing games.
I would ignore any more messages about "the games". He's trying to goad you into doing something that you are not ready to do and, of course, you can see clearly and need to do what is best for you and your children. He's not thinking clearly and only wants what he wants.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Paranoid? I understand that. I'm a bit paranoid myself. Paranoid that he'll get what he wants, completely stop paying the housepayment here, and destroy my credit and lose my place to live.
Snodderly, in all honestly, I've tried to be civil and light in our dealings this past week. This one really hit me out of right field.
I know that you've done everything you can to be civil, etc., but in his mind right now, he doesn't see it that way. His thinking is very irrational. He see the situation as you are are holding all of the cards and pulling them in closer so that he can't get what he wants. What you are doing is absolutely the correct way of doing things, i.e., checking on how to go about this w/your lawyer, etc. Your h thinks that you should just do whatever he says and that's not how it works when separations/divorces/assets/families are in the picture.
You are following the right path...do not allow him to sway you from the path. You are doing what you need to do to protect yourself, your family and the assets for the future. He can't see beyond his little finger for the future, but you can because you are seeing clearly right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
No one knows what the future holds...you just have to keep plugging away and hope for the best.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Don't take the bait!!! That is what he is doing. Honestly he would have more reason, and legal standing to stop paying your house expenses IF he got another place! No excuse if he doesn't get it...and if he stops paying, get your lawyer on it if you can't do it yourself!
Not to mention...his credit goes in the toilet on that one too...which is why he may be trying to get another place before he "lets yours go"...this way he has 7 yrs to repair the damage to his credit and with a new place he doesn't need it after the fact!
This is the response I got to my What? this morning. Saw DIL who said H opened the trunk he just "had to have" and said, "this isn't the right trunk" I showed her he email where I told him exactly what was in the trunk. I think he's really gone off the deep end. I don't know about the arrest warrant. I still haven't called the prosecutor's office. Think I'll do that now.
If it is your intention in the long run not to sign the papers, just tell me now okay.....if the only reason you want your lawyer to see them is to some how use it against me I just don't feel playing that one....again I will say I'm willing to settle things between us...just let me know...thanks
