Originally Posted By: flowmom exactly one month ago
Reality set in today and I realized that I can't afford to get involved with a man. I think I would be OK emotionally, but realistically it would be a bad choice to draw my focus away from my responsibilities as a parent:
* figuring how how to help S with his special needs * figuring out what D needs right now * figuring out how to keep the children's home * figuring out how to support myself financially
I also need to get this divorce crap over with first. It's going to be more work and not exactly pleasant. I hope that we can get the legal separation sorted out as soon as possible.
Summer is here and I want to fully enjoy it, including fun and flirtation. But it's time to be a grownup. Male "companionship and more" is going on the back burner.
I'm really feeling "out at sea" lately...drifting somewhere between an old life and a new life. Things don't fit properly, not just my old clothes.
Your ship sure has changed course real quick. Are you sure your compass has the correct heading?
These good guys you have now started dating are a huge distraction and an emotional bandaid. You may tell yourself that you want a friends with benefits, but one side will always want more. There is a good chance someone will get hurt.
However, to be fair, I do know some ladies from here that have done the same and are still in a rebound relationship. So it can work.
Be careful with your heart right now. It can cause procrastination on more important things you need done in your life right now.
FYI... I got into a relationship before my D was final. My XW then had an awakening and wanted another chance to which I said no. Then 6 months later I relized that I could not be in a long term relationship with my girlfriend and I had to break her heart. That breaking of someones dreams is something I never want to do again.
