Two events today that I think I handeled pretty well..
Frist we had a friend that is a realtor come over to discuss listing the house. I was nervous since W was out of town last night and I didn't know what to expect when she got home, but she arrived just as our friend pulled in. She was freindly, happy, actually conversing with me in a normal tone. The meeting went well, I showed no emotion, it was just a business deal to me, W however started to tear up when friend started talking about packing stuff up and getting it out of the house to make it look more spacious.
Later in the evening I broke the news to W about my response and counter suit, I told her I didn't want her to just get a call fom her lawyer so I gave her my copy to read. She teared up again before she even started reading it. Then she got mad and tried to start arguments, I backed off saying I would not argue with her about these things, that she should just read it and I would be happy to answer any questions she had. My general response to her was that I had to do what I thought was right for me and the kids. After he finished reading it I left the room calmly and in control. She stayed put for a few minutes then came out. She did not talk to me the rest of the night and decided to go to bed. Actually walked up to S to tell him goodnight and ignored me. Guess I hit a nerve. I did say goodnight and she mumbled something but I could not hear it and did not ask what she said.
I am sad that it has come to this, but it is what she wants, or so she indicated by filing for D.
Thanks to everyone here I was able to walk through these things and stay calm, strong, and confident without being jerk.
