So he went to the lawyers and I don`t think he has done anything. I don`t think he had any of his financial information with him. Anyway they are recommending mediation and he told me that they said if it went to court then a judge has to decide and they won`t really know either of us.....sounds like the lawyer is thinking that he may have someting to lose if it gets taken to court. I could be totally wrong of course and trying to read into things that aren`t there.
Seems as though I have been doing a lot of that lately. I have started to chat with someone (a friend). I have this feeling that he would probably like it to be more or at least at one time he may have felt something more than friendship for me. Of course I never acted on it b/c I was engaged and in love with my now H. Now that things have fallen apart of course I have decided to contact him but I know that I can't do anything for several reasons. But it has liberated me and I was able to tell my H that I no longer care about anything that he does and that he can have his OW. I don't care anymore. I have found even more incriminating evidence.
I believe now that things have been going on for a lot longer than just 1yr. I have found emails that date 2007 from an email account that i didn't know he used. Now i discover that in 2007 he most likely was apart of sex search websites. From their it just escalated. It is so scary b/c I have no idea how many women he has been with.
Now I have to get myself tested and hope for the best.
The more I know the less i want to know but finding out this has finally enabled me to be okay with moving on and getting him out of my life.
Did my 180 this morning and told him that I didn't care about anything that he does anymore and that I realize I lost him a long time ago...it was liberating and I think that talking to my friend allowed me the strength I needed to go forward and say this to my H. I think he was surprised and he just sat their with a stunned look on his face.
M=42 H=51 Common-law 6yr Children: 11yr old daughter (previous marrIage) 6yr old son Bomb dropped January 2013
