He was furious and said "you don't believe me!" and I said "No I believe you , but there's no way I could know" and he continued with"no you don't believe me". By the end of the phone call my head was spinning and I was wondering what happened?
Oh and somewhere along he said that he wants ME to file for D!!
I hope you don't believe him. This sounds to me like a clear sign that he is lying and has something to hide. I have gone through utter hell with my H who I discovered is a pathological lier. Now he is trying to manipulate the situation and make you out to appear as the "bad guy" by asking you to file for divorce. This way he will be able to say it was you and not him. It is disgusting that people can make bad decisions and then try to blame everyone else for their mistakes. It is classic. I don't think you should go into this with blinders...likely he is already having an affair with her and it is not something that he is just contemplating now. I don't know for sure but after what I have been through I feel like I can smell a rat 10 0000km away!
Anyway you have been given great advice and if you can stick to this he will notice and hopefully start to examine his own life a little more and this in turn will help to kickstart the marriage again.
I wish you luck and I hope things work out well for you. I was also very frustrated when I started blogging and nothing would come back. The big things I learned were to try to help others and post on their threads...you will get noticed that way and people will start to look at your sit. and comment. And just keep blogging regularly. It will help to get stuff out and as you accumulate messages people will again notice and start to comment. If you want a good laugh go check out my sit. It is crazy what I have been through but I have come out alive so far!:)
M=42 H=51 Common-law 6yr Children: 11yr old daughter (previous marrIage) 6yr old son Bomb dropped January 2013
