Surviving the Big D STINKS!

[ClingingToHope]

Gardener was actually pretty harsh -- but I understand where he's coming from.

As I read it, you are still not divorced, the filing was just a couple of months ago and didn't the two of you just dooo the deed a few nights ago.

So there's a lot going on here.

The one thing that sounded strange in the message was the middle part, let's go golfing sometime. Had he not included that then perhaps it would have been a legitimate moment of him reaching out.

By throwing that in -- well, I'm not sure what he was doing.

In my case, with STBXW, I was condescending. I rarely took her advice on anything other than clothing or insurance. She didn't go to college and has a complex about those who did and when I didn't value her opinion, I'm sure it made her feel 2 inches tall.

I see that now and I tried to make amends for months. I apologized in a letter. But still she filed and has never shown ANY wavering so I've given up. So there's no hope for me ... for you? Maybe.