just that my h needs to grow up. and growing up will take a long time. as long as his parents are still alive, my h will never "grow up".
it requires FT and lots of it. but you cannot force them to go to FT. they don't think there's anything wrong with their relationship.
mom and dad think giving money and baked goods to their 40-yr old son is being a good parent.
you simply can't break that cycle. h has to figure that out himself. i don't know if it will ever break.
to me, this is beyond db-ing. i think i always knew that. i've been looking for a reason to stop db-ing and just go ballistic. maybe i found my reason to stop db-ing.
i came here to figure out if db-ing will save my m. there is zero hope.
sandi2 and greek have told me that i'm wasting my time trying to reconcile. my h will never change.
i'm beginning to wonder what i'm doing here. what's the point in db-ing? to save me? it's not what i came here for.
sigh .. i have to stop here before my post turns "jekyll and hyde".
