Sorry I haven’t been around in a while. Life just keeps on giving! Not going to bore anyone with the details, just suffice it to say that I am no closer to resolution to the financial crisis and other things around the house keep breaking.
Anyway, since my last post, I have gone as DIM as I can, considering the kids and joint financial issues. I don’t know if it is working or not, and honestly, at this point, not sure I care.
Anyway, tonight I came home and she was here. After I had been home a while doing laundry, messing with the S13, I noticed she obviously had something on her mind, but didn’t bring it up.
After a while she came into the laundry room and asked if we could talk. I said sure and waited. She said the friend she has been staying with is having her house foreclosed and is looking for a 2 bedroom apartment in another town (her and her daughter) and my W has nowhere to go and can she move into my basement.
Honestly, for a few seconds, I really considered telling her no. But she IS the mother of my children and I don’t want her out on the street or shacking up with someone untrustworthy. So I said yes with some stipulations. I told her she can stay here if she promises me that she will in no way contact the OM. She started crying and looked like it pained her to say it, but she finally agreed.
Now, I know there is no way I will be able to keep tabs on her cell usage so won’t know for sure if she is still contacting him from here or not, and I honestly feel like I made a huge tactical error, but what could I do?
I know, I’m probably going to hear that I should have told her no so she could continue her spiral down to “rock bottom”, but…
She said she is looking and hopes she will e able to find somewhere else before eviction since she doesn’t feel welcome here from the kids and me…blah, blah, blah. I told her that she should understand my stance and she has to work on her relationship with the kids if she wants to feel welcomed by them.
I am definitely going to place one other stipulation on this in that if she and D18 start fighting again, it is “out you go” and setting a deadline for her stay (if she doesn’t “come around”) of 3 months.
Did I just screw up?
Honestly, I am mostly afraid that I will catch her contacting the OM from here and I will lose it and it won’t be as amicable as it is now.
Me-44 W-41 M-20yrs S13 D18 ILYBINILWY-June 2010 (On our Anniversary)
