New to this, hoping for advice

[A_goodman]

GB,

Ok, first off, what cajones this guy has! You're being underhanded because you wantto come home during the time he has planned for his tryst? Does tatoo tell him when your plane lands?

You have gotten some good advice from Greek. She's kinda the gold STD on the waw mindset. I'm sorry you are here, but this is going to help you become a better person. That sounds trite, but it's the truth. Sometimes a thread will go stale for a few days. It's ok as long as you're reading other threads. The advice is universal in a general sense.

I would start living life on your terms. It's your house. Go there at will. You don't have to say anything to him. Give him a smile and a nice "hi honey" and go about your business. Actually, strike the honey and stick with "hi H".

I think a job in your home town is an excellent idea. You can move back into your house and have your friends close. There is no reason why he should have an easier time than you in seperating.

Mostly, take care of your body. It has direct consequences for your mood. Excersise releases endorphins that will relieve the grief. Plus the more fit you get the more confident you will become.

Good luck. I'll check back soon.