Surviving the Big D STINKS!

[newmama]

So what did you say on the voicemail? And don't go golfing....he can do that if he wants to be married to you.

Look, I am not anti- R after divorcing; it's just that how can the WAS experience the loss of us and appreciate what we had with them (even with all of our flaws) if they never lose us?

If stbxh came to me in this next year and said he wanted to R, I would say "sorry, I think you aren't strong enough to do the counseling that you need in order for us to be able to recover from the hell you put me through."

Did I say no? Did I say yes? No. I told him what he had to do. (in my imagination, lol!)