Piano, we all have our "that's IT!" limit. For me, sadly, it took him to actually file for D. WHY?????!!!! But it did. I wish I had set that deadline and stuck by it. Of course I think it was too hard to detach since he was here every day.

Anyway, you are wise to set that deadline for yourself. I also think that with NC, you will detach. I mean, reconciliation or not, detachment is vital! Detachment does not prevent reconciliation!!!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004