I moved out when asked. Outcome: we're getting D'ed. (He filed, then dismissed, and now we're D'ing). My sitch is diff from yours though. Feel free to read up if you like.
My advice to you is to stay in your home like others have advised.
It's understandable she feels very betrayed by you and all of this has probably been simmering under the surface for a long time.. Transparency is the only way to go, Didthehurt.
