WAW says she wants to come back

[Grocerykartman]

I started to read it last night. I agree that the only way for her to truly have the love and interest in me that she needs is for her to be set free completely. Separation is not enough, she'd have to actually have a relationship with this idiot and find out she's as miserable with him in the long run as she was with me. She just can't see it now because he's much older and has no kids and has the "luxury" to have time apart from her once they get a bit tired of being around each other. They don't live like married people, they live like college kids. They'll both see, I always think. He'll see why someone can have problems in a relationship with her, and she'll see that our marriage problems will probably be similar with another guy too, she just sees him as an escape now since they have no real commitment to each other.

But maybe not, perhaps they are just a better match. I'm okay with that thought, what I'm not okay with is thinking that I am just letting this happen to my family, if indeed she is throwing me the most legitimate reason I have had in 1.5 years to make things work. I can let her go, but the thought of letting my family go is just killing me.

But she has had tons of opportunities to give OM up, but has never done it. There is no sign of her ACTUALLY doing it voluntarily, which is what counts. I guess that's going to have to be how the story is written, I can't promise her how hard I'd try even with him out of the picture. But there is no way I'll even consider trying with him in it. Guess I'm losing my family then. It's pretty cut and dry. I would think so if I were an outsider to the situation. I wonder why its such a gray area when you are in it.