Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[Ready2Change]

Just read the words in bold:

At the end of our last session on Monday you asked me to figure out if I "want to want to try" my immediate reaction is no, I do not. But I know I need to be sure about this and I'm not.

Throughout our marriage my husband didn't listen to me. He controlled me, and he didn't value my input or opinions. He recklessly spent our money, didn't spend time with me, and neglected our son. I in turn found comfort in talking to men who I thought valued me. I know that was incredibly hurtful and wrong. I know I need to value myself rather than seek it from other people. I'm working on valuing myself by going back to school and being the best mother I can be.

Since the day I told John I was ready to leave he has tried his hardest to fix these things but he still doesn't listen, tries to control me, and doesn't value my input or opinion. He has also tries to manipulate me and force me to stay. I know these actions are out of desperation and fear. I also know that I let him treat me this way throughout our marriage because I didn't have the tools or words to convey that these actions needed to stop, although I did try.

At this point in our relationship I love him

Go back and read the words in red.


I would like to strongly suggest that you learn to LISTEN. This is an easy skill. It is kinda like watching TV....As she is speaking, you look into her eyes with your full attention, enjoy what you are seeing, and focus on remembering every word she says....THAT IS WHAT SHE FINDS ATTRACTIVE in these other men....BE ATTRACTIVE.

Validation is another skill that you can practice while listening....