Husband : I do... I think... Maybe, I will let you know.. Let me check my facebook account first... Hold it, incoming call... one second... Ya, I can go with that, but I don't know about this 'do' business.. what is it you need me to do again?
You have to decide how long you want to chase a rabbit around the yard on this one...
He said in FT the other day he "felt pressured" to get married. Not directly by me. But because he knew it's what I wanted, and basically that if he didn't do it he was risking losing me.
The stupid thing is that HE sort of forced the situation that caused us to get engaged. We had been together 9 years. My lease on my condo was expiring (I lived alone). I was preparing to renew it for another year. DH was living with his parents. He wanted to move out, and wanted to do it with me. I told him to get his own place for a while, and live on his own. He said "No. I'd have to live in an apartment then. I don't want to live in an apartment, I want to live in a single-family house. But I can't really do that on my own." I told him to rent a house with a friend. He said he didn't have any friends he could do that with, and that he really wanted to live with me. (I see now that I probably should have said "too effin bad, you NEED to be on your own for a little while, for your own good"). I refused to move in with him unless we were engaged (not as a manipulation tactic at all, but because that is a strong value of mine -- I feel like co-habitation without commitment is foolish, because if it falls apart, you have all the headaches of splitting a household and finances with none of the legal protections). He begged me not to renew my lease, saying he would propose. We found a place, and the day after we signed the lease, he proposed. 16 months later we were married. He even wrote his own vows to me, in which he promised to "always be faithful"...
Ugh... that all sounds so unromantic when told like that...
Me: 29 Him: 30 Married: 2 years Together: 13 years No kids Bomb: 6/4/10 Started MC: 7/16/10
