We had a pretty deep conversation today about dream jobs, dream careers, just reflecting on things. It was a really good feeling to share my opinion and be listened to (which was somewhat lacking before - H complained I didn't share my thoughts, but when I tried he didn't listen and then he wouldn't share because I didn't... vicious circle). My only fear is that we'll run out topics to share on! Isn't that a legitimate worry?
He had a very bad day at work and said he didn't want to talk about it but wanted a hug. So I sent him an internet "hug" and he spilled a little, I validated. I think it went pretty well. He mentioned "when you come here" again. He's the one who needs to sort out the paperwork for that cause I did what I needed already so I'm leaving this subject alone completely.
At the end of conversation, when he was going to sleep, he actually said "Love you".
Now how do I continue? I'm going to keep up GAL, which is much needed in general and not only gives me something to do, but gives him reassurance that he won't have to "entertain me" when I finally move there. Once I finally lay my hands on the book, I want to work on more 180s, see what things I'm doing are not good for our marriage and try to do something about them.
Definitely keeping up with trying to be more open and share more, but I'm really concerned that I don't drop the ball here. I've made this attempt before and it was good at the very start but then I stopped and just didn't continue. How do I make sure not to fall back into old ways???
Also need advice about the not initiating contact, should I still be reserved? No pursuing at all?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
