There are several factors in my XWs childhood that could have led to it. She was the fourth sibling in her family and only 2 when her parents D. She was then with her dad until her mom was able to get her back and by then she was either 7 or 9. She tried to connect with her mom but it was as if her mom had checked out and she never could connect with her growing up. She later was abused sexually by her older brother and her step dad as well as others so all of these things certainly contributed to her being unable to complete the entire process of growing up during her adolescence.
To answer your other question, I would just like to understand more of what my XW is going through. We don't communicate much if at all and I'm certainly living my life and leaving her alone to live hers. I'm in IC but she is not as far as I know because I'm still the bad guy and everything is still my fault.
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10
