spent a bit of time hanging out in the 'infidelity' forum for a bit. learned some pretty interesting stuff from allen a.
i was quite careful over there because i've learned the basic no-nos: - no mind-reading - cannot control someone else's behavior
the good news is, it doesn't stop me from GAL-ing. i still exercise, play squash. boy, are my muscles sore! i need to eat a banana or something after.
i got a little discouraged because i finally learned something about my sitch. my h has to put his big boy pants on. but how do you encourage this? you cannot control someone else's behaviour. so you can't force him to put his big boy pants on. what is an effective way of modelling 'big boy' behavior?
all i'm doing is working hard and playing hard. i can work hard and play hard. still waiting for h to complete his financial statements for our sep agreement. once that is done, then i'll call him up for a meeting.
y'know, at the end of the summer, if i am making progress on me, is it okay for me to reward myself with a new squash racquet?
my thread is a bit quiet. rightfully so. things have been pretty calm but forrest, where are you? i need a new challenge!
