OK, so the kids feel safe talking to you
You feel safe talking to all of them? Are you holding back with any of the kids?

I suspect your H doesn't feel safe talking to you, and you likley don't feel safe talking to him either...

How do you think each of your kids feels about talking to him?

The pattern is likley that none of your kids OR you feel safe talking to your H...

If you told him none of them do it may just shock him a bit and wake him up a bit