My girls are so happy when STBXW spend any time together. It always sends me into a downward spiral so I try not to let it happen too often. It really is heartbreaking. Lots of questions from D8 this week about R stuff.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Soleil, no particular theme- I just got a few balloons, a tiara, some other b.day decorations etc.
Wii, I guess it was ok for the most part. Things got a little heated over her going through the cabinets while packing up her stuff. She wanted to go through the whole house again and I didn't let her. But once we got out of the house it was sort of like the old times...I mean not much feelings there but just like we can tolerate eachother and say a few jokes here and there. I guess the best way to describe would be: she's the mom of my child and I'm the dad of her's so we're amicable- outside the divorce stuff.
It's really interesting how my outlook has changed on things. I feel a lot more removed and detached from this whole mess, I'm upset about some things but I'm not angry about them. I don't know if it's a phase I'm going through...I hope it sticks.
CTH, yeah that's what I'm thinking too. I don't want to give DD a false hope but I can't tell her not to be happy.
Other than that life's good!
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
So STBXW come over with the movers last night to get the big furniture stuff. It was mortifying because it looked like a circus show on the street with the neighbor's watching the movers carry the furniture out. I felt really embarrased and humiliated but came out unscathed.
The house looks like a dance studio now...lol maybe I should use it as such "One on one free dance training lessons for women"
So that's done and over with...NEXT!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
That's a tough one. A friend of mine called me after one of STBXW's biker buddies mowed the lawn for her.
STBXW talked to no one in the neighborhood. They are all friends of mine so it was embarrassing, but life happens and the neighbors I care about know there was no scandal -- no cheating, or drugs, or violence -- just STBXW and her issues dragging us under.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
IR- glad you're keeping your sense of humor- that will serve you well . Neighbors have already moved on to the next "interesting thing."
It's nice that you have more space now- D can run around, you can set up a weight lifting corner, whatever. Remember you telling me about simplifying your life with less stuff? Well, there you go.
Dance with your D- she'll love doing that with her Daddy.
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
The moving of the furniture/items is an odd experience. Ya'll are much nicer than I am because I packed up the stuff and left it outside (on the arranged day of course).
It's unsettling though on many levels. I understand it's just "stuff" but sometimes stuff matters in a different sense.
The "stuff" being gone was a good turning point for me. It created a totally different energy in my house.
I understand it feels scandalous to have the neighbors watching but for the most part I think people get a divorce is not an easy thing and this is just another part of the process.
. Neighbors have already moved on to the next "interesting thing."