He may just be playing you off against these women to stroke his own ego...
Is he showing sincere remorse here or do you think he's chuckling about it after you leave the room?
He seems to think the boundaries are open for discussion... But the point is, he has so little education on this subject he's just going to be wasting your time and talking in circles...
This "harmless" comment he made is a perfect example...
You have TOLD him you are HURT by his communications and he claims its harm-LESS... It's a logical contradiction but he's standing there maintaining its harmless just to spite you. You tell him you ARE hurt and he just contradicts you and tells you its harmless...
Three possibilities here : 1. He is INDIFFERENT to your feelings... 2. He is passive aggressive and is TRYING to upset you on purpose 3. He sympathizes but lacks the emotional intelligence to understand this is causing you harm
Have you researched passive aggression?
As long as he's being passive aggressive you negotiating is a waste of time... He has to be grown up enough to own his role in the marriage or be honest enough to walk away from it
