I never took this discussion to be a "who is more right" type thing. It is what it is. People have different ideas of how to go about creating the life they want. One is not better or more acceptable but when it comes to rebuilding after a divorce certain "things" need to be considered.
Honestly, I am at a point in my life where I have ZERO interest in playing games. NONE. I will not do it. If I spend some time with a person and it doesn't feel like I want it to feel then I am not going to continue for "dating practice" or anything else. I certainly would not want somebody to do that to me!
When you reach a certain age and you start dating again there are many factors that were not present the first time around (divorce, ex spouses, children). The people you meet in your 20's tend to be like people in their 20's! Now though there are lots of other things that do need consideration. Most single people in their mid thirties have been in some sort of long term R if not a marriage which means they have gone through a divorce. It's just a total different set of rules in my opinion. I hesitate to use the word rules so perhaps I should say circumstances.
I simply feel for me that dating should be out of sheer desire to want to spend time with a person and not the IDEA of a person.
I will never be in a R again with somebody that cannot and will not communicate. It reduces my quality of life too much. That is really number one on my list.
