that's just not right. this is one of those milestones in your D's life that doesn't get a second chance. it's like a baby taking his/her first step. there's only one first step! man up and be a father for once.
i'm working on the third option too. sometimes the longest/toughest way is the better way.
i trolled the forums for the longest time and read a lot of advice. and i kept thinking to myself, this wouldn't work in my sitch. i couldn't pinpoint why. and it took this long .. and ended up in the infidelity forum to figure out that my h is just a child who wasn't raised properly. that's why a lot of these tactics wouldn't work on him.
i am still working on me but the odds of me saving my m are pretty low. his parents are in constant contact with him.
i had to stop snooping in my intel resources because it was destroying me. i never find anything but the anxiety ate away at me. when i am not snooping, i'm actually at peace.
i applaude you for wanting to save your m. i do too .. even if it is with a man-child. during our 9 yr relationship, there were hints of an adult.
