1. had a nice IM from her yesterday morning before she left for the weekend. 2. did a nice dinner with a friend who was having M problems and had a chance to tell him about DR and this board for support. 3. overall PMA is very good. (I am reserving the "excellent" level for when she ask me to come back home - and I feel that I am getting closer to that too)
Odga-I have been reading your thread and think that you are doing a great job of DBing! You seem to have balance down to a fine art. I think your doing a fine job at this pace -you'll be able to tell when she wants to step it up a notch. Women do tend to like men to be the initiators in sex, so be mindful of the little hints she gives you. I get very frustrated when my H does not act like he desires me. I want to be told I'm sexy and know that he wants me. While too much would push her away, she seems to be communicating to you her feelings, so be mindful of that and also the unspoken which can be very powerful too. And....Good for you for helping your friend realize that there might be an alternative to walking away from his M! Rachael
You too Ellie...CJ already joked about following me around on my daily power walks around the house...so maybe I'll just challenge him to it! Or invite him...new thong yoga workout suit maybe??? (for ME of course! LOL!)
morning coffee and time for my positives from yesterday (well I am actually on my 2nd cup. I was reading post and catching up on some threads during my 1st cup)
1. got a load of laundry started (would not let myself get my 2nd cup unless I started doing something) 2. went to Grandson's wresling match yesterday and he did well for himself (which is a nice way of saying he lost both matches I saw but he did win one just before I got there and he took a forfet while I was there - so 50/50) 3. Saw Both my Kids yesterday (really not kids anymore - youngest is 31) youngest D came up for the match too - a 2.5 hour drive each way) 4. I do have my weekend treat in the oven (cinnamon rolls and starting to smell great) 5. C will be back tonight and am looking forward to seeing her later. In the meanwhile, looking forward to wrapping Christmas presents and general clean up of the apt. 6. ALSO A BIG POSITIVE, some very interesting post on my thread about something I am not really sure I follow, Camo thongs, not quite workout outfits, victorias secrets???? more details would be appreciated. LOL Really the positive on my part (not from yesterday though but still included) is that even though right after the bomb (or maybe even before) she threw out all her thongs and sexy stuff, but lately with me telling her that she is a really sexy lady, she is looking at more sexy things in the store and indicates that she may get some. This may take more time though, but it is fun to work on that area, I get the feeling that she likes me telling her she is sexy and I do not put her down for tossing out the other stuff. I just kinda let that drop.
Hi ODGA, I too tossed my sexies out one night in a fit of anger. I have started to replace a lot of it, but one night my H suggested that he would be getting me some things to help me in this endeavor. He even went so far as to go to the store himself but walked in and got intimidated and left! LOL I told him that a gift certificate would be fine, or even better, we could shop for it together.
So I was wondering if C would like that? A VS gift certificate as one of her Christmas gifts?
Would that be too much pressure?
I have to tell you that I was beyond thrilled when my H said that he would do that, and that he'd even been to the store. I have spent so much of our married life disguising who I really am, and downplaying the role that sexuality plays in my personality, that to have him acknowledge that was quite a triumph. It was acceptance of what I feel is a huge, vital and wonderful part of myself.
