FM, thank you so much for this thread! I am fairly new to this site, and hadn't seen this before. Your situation and mine are so similar it is crazy. Your positive outlook and friendly ending with your ex give me hope that, if my H doesn't return to the home, he and I can continue to have a positive relationship for the kids.

Good luck to you and feel free to visit us anytime!

Me: 34
H: 34
S: 8
D: 5
M: 10 yrs
T: 12 yrs
Affair: 7-1-10 (lasted 2 months, I caught him by reading emails, there was no sign of stopping until I caught him)
S: 7-16-10