Lin, Thanks for your reply. What you are saying makes perfect sense. I'm not sure exactly where we are in the process right now, we are stepping lightly. Not eggshells, but kinda just doing our own thing, together. I have asked that we not talk about our R until we go back for our second session with this new MC. We don't have the skills yet to navigate thru that at this time. We just end up saying the same things to each other over and over and not getting anywhere. So, it's best if we just let it rest and enjoy each other's company for now.
We seem to be more calm as a result of taking the pressure off. I think he would like to pretend like none of the A happened and just go back to life as usual..but of course that isn't going to happen because we have both changed..and our M has changed.
I'm looking for a job so that keeps me busy..and I have a ton of hobbies so I'm starting to get back into those. He is consumed with his exercise pgm and his job takes alot of his energy too..we're just treading water right now. And that's ok.
I can see that there are things he is still struggling with..but there are things I am struggling with too. Thru it all, we have remained friends, not sure if that helps all the time..but for the most part it's a good thing.
So, we'll see what happens. Hopefully as it moves forward I'll have specific questions to ask.
I'm sorry that you have alcoholism and PTSD to deal with also. My first H and my S are both alcoholics..my Dad was too..so I know how hard that can be. I'm glad he's on antidepressants. Diabetes is a pretty big deal too. You are one strong woman.
