Just my 2 cents ... I agree with every you've said SA, except ...
Originally Posted By: seeking answers
I realize the shield will have to be dismantled if/when H returns.
Loving detachment should be a part of a healthy relationship. Understanding that individuals make their own choices, loving without the need/desire to control, learning mutuality instead of codependance ...
Detachment does not mean not caring or loving someone, it simply means that you understand you are your own person and someone elses choices and decisions do NOT control your emotional well being.
Yes, you will need to learn to trust again, but that doesn't mean letting go of healthy, loving detachment IMO.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
