I can't read her mind. She's said that when confronted with a problem, I tend to withdraw. That I'm passive too much.
She was fine with me when she got a lot of attention, and that changed as I gave attention to my career, hobbies and even my kids. I'm the one who makes most of the decisions in the family, always have been; but she likes the idea of "planting seeds" in my head to get me to agree to what she wants.
She is treating me the way she feels she should. She's leaving because she wants someone else, who she's attracted to. Perhaps this dream man has some of my good traits, along with more confidence and assertiveness. Don't know, that's mind reading.
I'm becoming more assertive, not afraid of her emotions. Not letting fear of the unknown scare me. Not avoiding confrontation as much as I used to. Expressing my needs more clearly, defining boundaries much better.
If she likes that, great. Maybe we can find some common ground where a R will work. She'll need to make changes to accomodate my needs and boundaries. Otherwise, I'll find someone whom I'm attracted to that will.
