Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[LSG]

Coach,

Thanks for reminding me. My dad is going to buy him a fishing pole too. I used the tackle box with him today while D was with a friend. He organized it wiped it clean real nice. He loves it. I cannot wait to give it to him.

Thank for always at my worst times showing me your kindness and support. I will not forget it.

[LSG]

IDU,

You are a true friend. I can always count on you.

[LSG]

Here is a portion of OMW's e-mail to me. This is what she had to say...What do you guy's think?

things haven't changed much on my end either, although i did elude to him in a conversation we had that i thought he had a girlfriend...he said "what does it matter...you kicked me to the curb long ago so what do you care!!!" i guess if that's how he feels, then why doesn't he just leave me??? who knows

Anyways, I fought with W a little over trying to help D with something I started. I do not know why I was so mad. It just irritated me.

I have had a long day today. I had to do a lot of things that I just did not want to, but they are out of the way. I have been preparing for the hearing next Monday.

I saw on her phone a TM from the OM too. It was at 9:43 pm Wednesday, August 11, 2010. I was so disgusted by it. I occasionally check, and I guess I should not. I don't know.

I gave some more things of mine that I got as a kid to my kids. I just feel like doing it. They seem happy.

I am so tired of this life with my W that I think a D will be a relief. I don't have the fight for the marriage anymore. As long as the OM is in the picture there would never be reconciliation for us I believe. I don't know how I could ever break the R up to give us a chance. It is over, and I am a little sad for the first time in a long time. I just don't get why I feel this way so close to the hearing. I guess finality is closer and closer for us.

[pinhead]

Chin up LSG,

You've been doing great for your kids. Have you done anything for yourself lately?

[LSG]

PH,

Thanks. I don't do anything for me. It is all about the kids and my divorce at the moment. I just need to move on and forward for the kids first. I just don't have the time and money to do much for me these days.

I just feel so much emotion and loss right now. I don't know how to worry about me right now when I have lost my wife, and I am fighting so hard to keep my kids. It is just not a concern my needs at the moment. I will try do something for me when this over.

Take care of yourself, and you are doing great. I am impressed.

[pinhead]

Eat. That's for yourself. Sleep. Exercise. Read or listen to music. Something that'll help take your mind off of the sitch.

[LSG]

You are right. The only thing that will take my mind off of it is to have the marriage end and time to recover from this whole ordeal. It is going to take me a lot of time.

[DanF]

Hang in there LSG. I'm very sorry that things are going so badly for you right now. I think things will be much better for you AFTER the court date. The judge will not be so punitive as your W. Denying you food to eat is absolutely ridiculous.

You are a great dad and I love to hear the stories about your kids and their reactions. My kids are doing similar things and I find it amusing.

Stay strong and keep your chin up. You will get through this. less than a week!!! Look forward to it and the closure it will bring.

[Dazed&Confused]

LSG,

I have finally made through all of the 107 pages of your sitch. I just want to say that you have done amazingly well. This will be a reminder for me while I go through mine. I know I can do it now! I too have two wonderful kids and they are what keeps me going, but sometimes, my feelings will overwelm me. You sitch is a tough one, I cannot lie, but you are truckin forward for you two little ones.

I can't say enough about how much of an inspiration you have been. Yes, you have bad days, too many perhaps, but you haven't let that spill over into your kids lives. That into itself is borderline amazing to me. Keep being strong, stay out there and find that job, and show the courts what kind of father that you are. That is all that you can do at this point. No matter the outcome of your hearing, you and your kids will always know that you were there for them during a very difficult time.

Nobody knows what the future holds, I try and remind myself of that everyday. My sitch could turn ugly at any minute, and now I know that it will be possible to make it through that as well. I really do wish you the best of luck, and thanks again for staying strong, and being there for your kids during a very bad sitch.

Remember, one foot in front of the other.....the future awaits, tomorrow is a new day

[LSG]

DanF and D&C,

I don't know what you said, but I just started crying after reading your post to me.

I keep telling myself everyday that I can make it for one more day. I pray to God to give me the strength to get through the next moment. I have been trying not to lose myself in this. I have to tell myself all the time to be a good person and never be anybody that I would not be happy to know. I have made mistakes in my marriage, and I have to remember that I cannot change anything what has happened. I have to just try to the right things now, and I feel that I have been doing my best.

That is all I can do, right.

Everyday that is closer to the hearing I just become more sad and the feeling of loss becomes stronger. I have been able to be strong, but this has become very difficult to keep the emotions from taking over.

I am just overwhelmed, and I know that will pass. I have to remember that everyday is a new day and a new start. I will be okay. This just part of the process that we go through in these situations. I have to tell myself that over and over.

Thank you guys so much for being here for me! I am sorry for being a little too whiny and weak in my response today. I will have it together soon I hope

Thanks again!!!