It does feel good - He was so down and I was telling him that there was hope when everyone else was saying it was over. Told him that even if things did not work between them that at least he would feel good about himself in that he had tried to do everything he could to save his M.
As to the physical area. I do try to let her know that I find her physically attractive. She has noticed on more that one occasion (really a whole bunch) that I was staring at her "attributes" and I do insert several sexual Innuendoes in our conversations and lately she has also "innuendoed" too.
Looking back on things I think that my Testosterone started dropping after I had my vasectomy right after my first divorce about 12 years ago. I have been told, however, that they are not connected. During most of the time since then, I was going to law school and then starting my own practice after passing the bar. Of course during that time anything close to a personal life was nothing more that a pipe dream.
When I started dating again I noticed that I was having a slight problem but did not want to admit it, even to myself. The male ego thing.
When I met C, I got that newly wed, first year's sexual adventures thing and really had no problems but then the 2nd year and marriage routine thing set in along with the drop in libido which led to performace anxiety. This coincided with C's becomming a grandmother and her MLC and also the change of life thing with all the hot flashes, emotional swings etc. and thus started our problem. Performace anxiety and low libido casued me to pull away and she was therefore positive that I no longer loved her and she pulled away which casued more performance anxiety which casued.......until the bomb. That finally caused me to go to the Doc. I have been taking the Testosterone supplements ever since.
Problem is that it works and I am now a High Sex drive person and C is now taking AD's which suppress her Sex drive. Now that is Ironic. She is aware of this though and has said several times that she will not be on AD's forever and to just be patient.
Well I kinda revealed alot here but it may help some see where I am in my R. and to let others know that if you seem to be having a problem with performance to go check it out with the Dr. In addition to the miracle blue pill there are other things that your Dr. can give you to help. Do it before it is too late.
