A, I hope the vacation break was peaceful and restful for you.
As for your conversation w/your h, he's play the "poor me" song about everything that is not going well in his life. I know that you want to be a friend to him, but please be careful not to fall into his bottomless pit of poor me. Sometimes they do this so that we will feel sorry for them and back off on what we are going for. W/the pending sale of the house, he may very well hope that you'll decide to give him more of your share or offer him additional funds. Please, please do not fall for that.
A, your h needs to grow up and learn from his mistakes. You, on the other hand are the mature adult here and are striving to live your life to the fullest as best you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
