PH - You should have called her on her tone. Maybe something like "I don't find your tone acceptable or respectful and I'm not going to tolerate being treated that way. You have no cause to punish me." What you did - sorry - made you a doormat. And you're not.
Is that the tone you want to hear from a loving partner? Where is your boundary? enforce - enforce - enforce
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.