Quote: What I wouldn't have wanted to hear is that he was content to just cuddle. Is that the impression you are giving her?
Well, since I have been taking my Testosterone supplements she knows that I want more than to just cuddle and we have had sex on several occasions since the D was final. About two weeks ago she made the statement that she did not want our R to be just about sex so I have been trying to convey a sense of Love rather than lust. However, I do agree with you that sometimes it is nice to sence that someone really, trully, wholehartedly LUST after you in a physical way. I am trying to balance my approach to her in this area. It is a very fine tightrope to walk.
She also made the statement on several occasions that she does not want to hurt me any more. I have told her that I would rather have little disappointments from time to time in our R that to just call it quits and move on, and that I would rather be Disappointed rather than for her to do something with me that she was not ready to do. I have on several occasions told her what I do want in our R and what I would like her to do although I have not pushed her to do anything until she is ready. While we have in the past kinda read each others minds, I do believe that I should not rely on that method of communication and to be more direct with my wants.
In the DBing the thing to to try something and monitor, so I might try alittle more next time and see what happens. I am going to help her baby sit our grandchildren (7 and 2) next Friday night and the plans are for me to spend the night as we are taking my grand daughter (11) to the Cabbage patch doll factory the next day for her Christmas present. Then we have an Office Christmas Party that night and will be getting back to her place kinda late so I will likely spend the night again. Will monitor and maybe adjust my approach.
