Got it. So what do I need to do? I feel like if I just leave it be or whatever we'll be in perpetual limbo or something. She's never made decisions ever, or if she has they have always come with the input of someone else or by herself really slowly.
Again, you and I keep trying to control our Ws. If she wants to stay in limbo, let her stay. Perhaps she'll respond better over time to your 180s etc. Maybe she won't. Or eventually you'll decide that you don't want to live in limbo, and you'll make changes in your living arrangements to fit what you want.
