Hi Ogda, I have been keeping up on your thread ever since you posted on the SSM section. Your success is so inspiring!
I wanted to offer my take on her comments about feeling guilty. I think she is testing you. She obviously wants to remarry but I think she is afraid that things will revert to the way they were. So she is giving you little "tests" to guage what her next move should be.
I have done this to my husband as well, and it is NOT fair, I now realize. If I had made the guilty comment what I would have been wanting to hear in return is something like this: "Yes it is incredibly hard to be this close to you and not take it farther--you are torturing me, woman!" or some other lighthearted joke like that. What I wouldn't have wanted to hear is that he was content to just cuddle. Is that the impression you are giving her?
Now, all women love to cuddle and I'm sure she is no different, but we also like to feel that we are so desirable that just keeping it to Cuddling Level is next to impossible for our men. I'm SURE it was for you, but I think that she was fishing for those words to be spoken aloud.
I also think she did this once before, over an infection?, and I wanted to offer my opinion so that if she does it again, you can try a different approach and see if that is indeed what she was fishin' for!
