Just to add to the above thought. My brother shared his situation with a friend, saying he'd just found pictures of his wife playing hide the sausage with another guy from a few years ago, and his friend said "so why's that bother you now?" My best friend still spends time with his ex's neices periodically and a friend of his said "isn't that a bit weird?" What often happens when you feel vulnerable and defective is that you start to wonder "are they right?" So, sometimes you just choose not to share with others. They often just don't get it! That's when you feel alone.
