- Given all that I have read and understood throughout this sitch independent of personal sitch, I do not believe we can resolve our conflicts without MC help. - Therefore, I will take the lead on this situation, and as long as she wants to stay in this house, that means that she "wants to want this marriage." - If she is going to continue to "try" by staying in this house, which I applaud her for, then it should be productive. MC is the only way that can be productive. - Therefore, she has given an answer already, in fact two months ago to the question that the MC asked in our session on Monday.
Why are you going thru all of these logic contortions to "rescue" her from her MC assignment (to make a decision about wanting to "try to try")????
It's not your job to make this easy on your wife. Your validation is good -- keep that part up. But don't try to rescue her from her crucible (ref. Snarch); it is in that crucible that life's most meaningful decisions often get made.
