After being here for some time I learned my issue and faults leading to the breakdown in my M.
My W wanted my to see a doctor about my sleep disorder. I never did until she was gone. Once she was gone I did all the things she wanted me to do so I could win her back. I initially did them for her to see but I learned she didn't care at that point.
Then once I started to do things for me, make me a better person, I started to feel better. I did things for me b/c I wanted to be a better partner for my W or, if things didn't work out, be a better partner in my next relationship.
I didn't have OM in the picture to deal with but sicne she was getting attention from OM she felt good b/c she wasn't getting it from me.
The key is to work on yourself. Excercise, go out with friends, find a new hobby or revive an old one. Be the best dad you can be when you have the kids.
Don't sit around hoping she'll call. She won't. It's going to take a long time for her to see change b/c her wall is so high.
You working on yourself will lead to your happiness and will either be noticed by W or she may still go through with D.
Have the mind set that things could go either way, but in the end you WILL be happy.
Start detaching. this is by for the hardest thing to do for the LBSs.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
