Well, after a lousy night's sleep (way too short), I can see that I didn't lose that one but it could have been better. Maybe a draw.
I got a couple things out that may have made her think but it was too friendly.
I have to remember THE bondary. Numero Uno.
"I will not live in an open marriage" My original use of this was in the confrontation before vacation. And it was more about not having her in the house and agreeing that we should separate. And some of it ws said "for effect"
But I took my eyes off that since I spoke with her Monday. I mentioned it again to her. "If you end the A, I may be willing to discuss this further"
So when the texts and phone calls picked up, I thought I may have triggered something.
Doesn't matter. She needs to come WAY FURTHER my way before I should ANY distance back to her. She needs to catch up.
And I will not discuss personal, "friendly" things while there are 3 people in my marriage. I need the space again.
Been reading Robx's old thread. He makes reference to LBS becoming a WAS. I need to get to THERE. And soon.
Thanks for keeping up with me Sunny.
I gotta remember I am "leading" the Divorce until she changes direction. If it takes too long, I am OK with getting on with my life. She may have been the one to "ask" for the divorce, but I am the only one pursuing it.
