Yup all three have some emotional development due I would say...
Its a shame but there are a lot of moms out there who don't know how to raise a boy into a man... they only know how to feed and clothe a boy until that boy starts getting a paycheque and then he marries a stranger and has no idea what to do
Well, and it's not just the mamma's! I know, for instance, that with my boys sometimes I cringe at the things my H has said - and this was in the past before all this M stuff started. For example, S16 is a big sports guy. H would coach his teams. H would complain about everything being the ref's fault if they lost. Now, I hate bad ref calls too, but I hated him blaming the refs for a loss. What about personal responsibility? Refs are always going to be the human element in the game, for sure. I just didn't care for the bigger lesson I felt H was exhibiting and it definitely shows right now: When your life is not what you want it to be, look for someone else to blame!
Anyway, I think sometimes moms try to overcompensate with their boys because the Dads aren't what they are supposed to be or sometimes, not around at all. I have always tried to be careful to not undermine H or his authority as Dad, but teach my children the right things. This is the part I hate most of all with our sitch right now and what H is modeling to his boys: I feel I have to do damage control the best I can and it pisses me off that H isn't man enough to do the right job himself! I think about my brother - my uncle - my father: all GREAT men who would never dream of doing these things to their families... It's just a da*n shame I married someone so unlike these other great men in my life.
